Chic Lady :: How To Make A Good First Impression
October 25, 2011 § 1 Comment
Sometimes I feel like I was born in the wrong decade, possibly the wrong era. I wish that more women held manners and etiquette in a higher regard. But, then again, a ladylike woman is bound to make a strong impression on any person she meets, because you don’t see that too often. Being un-ladylike exudes laziness which, honestly, can be the easier route at times. Holding up social graces will not only make you a better person, but will make the world that much more pleasant. It will also ensure you will be a desired presence whether it’s at work, a party, or finding that perfect man. Yes, I know some of the rules of etiquette have changed. Etiquette is always evolving. So what does it mean to be a chic, fabulous, lady in a modern world?
What You Say Does Matter
It is as simple as manners. Do you remember when you were taught to always say “please” “thank you” “thank you for having me.” When did we stop using those phrases? It is as easy as just saying “thank you” when a waiter refills you drink or a nice smile and nod when someone opens the door for you. The things you say and the way you say them is a direct reflection of your inner beauty. And, yes, it may take some practice.
A smile is usually always infectious. Don’t you want the reputation of always having a smile or a nice demeanor? If someone asks “How are you?” Sometimes, it’s best to say, “Fine, or Great, thank you,” Even if you are not. Depending on if you are talking to an acquaintance or a best friend. Others will be drawn to you and actually be happy to be around you.
Some Ways to Make Someone’s Day Even Better
*You look amazing!
*I thought about you the other day.
*I’m so happy to see you!
*I love your outfit!
Sometimes it’s best to make the first move and introduce yourself first. When the other person gives you their name, go ahead and use it right away. By saying the name out loud, it will help you to remember it.
When introducing yourself to an elderly person, the formal way to use their name is with their title and surname, like “Mrs. Smith,” unless they say otherwise.
So, we’ve all been in a situation where we have forgotten a name. It’s best if you can discretely ask another person to remind you. If you can figure it out, then it is perfectly fine to apologize and then ask for their name again. Chances are, they’ve forgotten a name before too. If someone gets your name wrong, correct them and then make light of the situation.
If you have brought a guest with you, it is your responsibility to introduce them to others and bring out their similarities or likenesses.
It is always best to make the person you are talking to feel very comfortable and relaxed around you.
Tips On Overall Good Etiquette
*Always smile when greeting someone.
*Stand up when others enter the room.
*Don’t use cell phones during meals or text in company.
*Try not to leave the table during a meal.
*Drink a glass of water to match every glass of wine.
*Always write a thank you note when appropriate.
*Dress appropriately. Don’t show too much skin at formal events.